The comment probably wasn't the real thing. That's the confusing part, and it makes sense it left you spinning. When someone blows up over something small and then reaches for "never speak to me again," usually the small thing is just the door that finally gave. He may have been carrying something heavier for a while, and this is where it came out. Or he's someone who goes for distance when he's overwhelmed. Neither makes it your fault, and neither means you should go chase him back. What's worth noticing is where you're left standing: wondering what's going on in his head while he walks away. That's a heavy place to be. You can't read him, but you can feel what it's like to be with someone who keeps one foot out the door. Give yourself a little room before deciding anything. His exit isn't the only story here. The calmer you get, the clearer you'll see what you actually want, not just what you're afraid of losing.
The comment probably wasn't the real thing. That's the confusing part, and it makes sense it left you spinning. When someone blows up over something small and then reaches for "never speak to me again," usually the small thing is just the door that finally gave. He may have been carrying something heavier for a while, and this is where it came out. Or he's someone who goes for distance when he's overwhelmed. Neither makes it your fault, and neither means you should go chase him back. What's worth noticing is where you're left standing: wondering what's going on in his head while he walks away. That's a heavy place to be. You can't read him, but you can feel what it's like to be with someone who keeps one foot out the door. Give yourself a little room before deciding anything. His exit isn't the only story here. The calmer you get, the clearer you'll see what you actually want, not just what you're afraid of losing.
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