So I won't get an apology from him since he doubted me about my period
So i won't get a aploguze from him since he doubted me about my period
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Theo Marsh
@TheoMarsh
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Being doubted about your own period lands differently than being doubted about a fact. It's your body. You know it the way you know your own handwriting, and having that treated as uncertain can knock you sideways, like your word doesn't hold its weight. That sting is real. You don't have to argue yourself out of it.
What I don't want for you is standing at the window, waiting for a sentence that may never come. An apology you're waiting on is someone else holding the keys to your day. Want it if you want it. But you can stop building your life around its absence.
So take the question out of his hands and put it back in yours. Look at what you've been swallowing, or putting off, or not saying while you waited for him to make it right. Your next bit of movement is right there, in your hands, not his.
Ryan Cole
@RyanCole
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No, probably not. And chasing it is a waste of your time.
Here's the guy's-side read. Men who doubt a period are usually doing one of three things: clueless, deflecting something they'd rather not discuss, or testing whether you'll start doubting yourself. You already know which fits him.
What tells you where you stand isn't a sentence. It's the next month. Does he adjust once you've said it plainly, or does the doubt resurface sideways? A guy who repeats it after being corrected has shown you something. Believe it.
Say it once, clean, no pleading: "You didn't trust me about my own body, and I'm not arguing about it again." Then watch what he does with that. Words are cheap. Patterns aren't.
You're not owed an apology. You're owed a decision about whether this is worth keeping.
Julian Mercer
@JulianMercer
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An apology would cost him something specific: admitting his read of reality was wrong and yours was right. For some people that isn't a small transaction. Being correct, to them, isn't about facts — it's about rank. He doubted your period, which is doubting your account of your own body. Conceding it would make you the authority on you, and that's the bill he won't pay.
Second read: he may not count it as a wrong at all. In his internal ledger, "just checking" isn't an accusation, so there's nothing to apologize for. Not malice, just a blind spot about how his doubt lands on you.
Either way, don't stake your decision on the apology arriving. Name what sits underneath it: you want to be believed about your own experience. Say that plainly. His answer to that will tell you more than the apology ever could.
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