Does he really want to have a wedding to marry me again?

If a guy who has your number isn't calling you, the answer is usually simple: he doesn't want to. Not that he can't, not that he's scared, not that he lost his phone. He's choosing not to. You're asking for a yes or no. Here it is: yes, it's probably over. Here's the thing most women don't want to hear: men know exactly what they want. When a man is interested, you don't have to wonder. He makes it clear. He calls, he texts, he shows up. Silence is an answer. The strongest one there is. Neal knows your number exists. He knows he could call. He isn't. That's not confusion on his part. That's information. Could there be some rare exception? Maybe he's in a coma or on a classified mission. Statistically unlikely. The most straightforward explanation is that he's moved on and hasn't had the spine to say it directly. Stop waiting for a call that isn't coming. Stop looking for meaning in his silence. There is none. He just doesn't want to talk to you. Let yourself be angry about it for a day, then close that chapter. Your time is worth more than waiting for a man who already checked out.

If a guy who has your number isn't calling you, the answer is usually simple: he doesn't want to. Not that he can't, not that he's scared, not that he lost his phone. He's choosing not to. You're asking for a yes or no. Here it is: yes, it's probably over. Here's the thing most women don't want to hear: men know exactly what they want. When a man is interested, you don't have to wonder. He makes it clear. He calls, he texts, he shows up. Silence is an answer. The strongest one there is. Neal knows your number exists. He knows he could call. He isn't. That's not confusion on his part. That's information. Could there be some rare exception? Maybe he's in a coma or on a classified mission. Statistically unlikely. The most straightforward explanation is that he's moved on and hasn't had the spine to say it directly. Stop waiting for a call that isn't coming. Stop looking for meaning in his silence. There is none. He just doesn't want to talk to you. Let yourself be angry about it for a day, then close that chapter. Your time is worth more than waiting for a man who already checked out.

I hear how much this waiting is eating at you. That ache of not knowing, checking your phone, wondering if he's looking at your pictures the way you're looking at his — it's exhausting and it hurts. I'm not going to pretend I know what he's thinking or when he'll reach out, because the truth is, I can't tell you that. What I can tell you is that you're spending your precious energy on someone who isn't spending theirs on you right now. And that matters. You matter. The real question isn't when he'll come back — it's how long you're willing to keep living in this waiting room of your own life. Look at your pictures. Look at yourself in those photos. That person deserves someone who shows up, not someone you have to wonder about. I'm not saying it's easy, but honey, don't shrink your world down to waiting for him. Expand it. Fill it with things that don't leave you guessing.

I hear how much this waiting is eating at you. That ache of not knowing, checking your phone, wondering if he's looking at your pictures the way you're looking at his — it's exhausting and it hurts. I'm not going to pretend I know what he's thinking or when he'll reach out, because the truth is, I can't tell you that. What I can tell you is that you're spending your precious energy on someone who isn't spending theirs on you right now. And that matters. You matter. The real question isn't when he'll come back — it's how long you're willing to keep living in this waiting room of your own life. Look at your pictures. Look at yourself in those photos. That person deserves someone who shows up, not someone you have to wonder about. I'm not saying it's easy, but honey, don't shrink your world down to waiting for him. Expand it. Fill it with things that don't leave you guessing.

You handled the GM situation exactly right. Keeping a confidence isn't betrayal of the group; it's basic integrity. Your coworkers' anger came from being caught off-guard, not from you doing something wrong. You were right: if you'd passed along every quitting threat that never materialized, you'd have cried wolf and lost all credibility. You chose discretion over gossip, and that's rare. What matters now is the pattern. Trust is being withheld from you in return. You're being kept in the dark about your own promotion, denied computer access, dragged along. That's not a culture that respects you back. You kept someone else's secret; they won't give you a straight answer about your own future. Andy stepping up more consistently, kissing back, showing up, keeping his word from the graveside conversation -- that's a relational shift you can observe and enjoy without overanalyzing. Let the pattern build before you assign it meaning. Actions repeated over time are what count, not isolated moments. On the work front: stop waiting for them to decide for you. Ask directly for a timeline on the promotion decision. If they deflect or stall, you have your answer without them having to say no. You don't have to quit, but you do have to stop being the one who keeps everyone else's secrets while nobody keeps yours.

You handled the GM situation exactly right. Keeping a confidence isn't betrayal of the group; it's basic integrity. Your coworkers' anger came from being caught off-guard, not from you doing something wrong. You were right: if you'd passed along every quitting threat that never materialized, you'd have cried wolf and lost all credibility. You chose discretion over gossip, and that's rare. What matters now is the pattern. Trust is being withheld from you in return. You're being kept in the dark about your own promotion, denied computer access, dragged along. That's not a culture that respects you back. You kept someone else's secret; they won't give you a straight answer about your own future. Andy stepping up more consistently, kissing back, showing up, keeping his word from the graveside conversation -- that's a relational shift you can observe and enjoy without overanalyzing. Let the pattern build before you assign it meaning. Actions repeated over time are what count, not isolated moments. On the work front: stop waiting for them to decide for you. Ask directly for a timeline on the promotion decision. If they deflect or stall, you have your answer without them having to say no. You don't have to quit, but you do have to stop being the one who keeps everyone else's secrets while nobody keeps yours.