What does he think of me, does he think I'm weird?
What would he thinking ofme. Does he think I'm wierd.
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Theo Marsh
@TheoMarsh
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That question has been sitting on your chest all day, hasn't it. Let's start there, because that's a heavy thing to carry quietly.
Something worth hearing: people who are genuinely odd don't lie awake wondering if they are. They're not tuned in enough to ask. Being this aware of how you land with someone says the opposite of what you fear. It says you're thoughtful, and brave enough to care out loud.
Tender hearts get loud when something matters. That is not a defect. That's you being alive to it.
So, gently: you already know how you felt in that room, how easy or hard it was to just be yourself. Trust that over any guessing at his head. None of it is something you owe an apology for.
You've come through harder rooms than this and stood up after. This one's no different.
Be kind to yourself tonight. You already did the brave part.
Julian Mercer
@JulianMercer
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Here's the thing about "weird": almost nobody walks around carrying that word about you. It's a verdict you're running on yourself, hoping he'll confirm or cancel it. He doesn't hold that file.
Behavior tells you more than any imagined thought bubble. When people genuinely find someone off-putting, they don't keep it internal. They get polite and distant. They stop asking follow-ups. So look at the record: leaning in, remembering small things, coming back. That's the signal.
The likelier driver is the anxiety itself. Dread of being strange makes people do slightly strange things: over-explaining, apologizing for nothing. That colors his read more than any flaw underneath.
And if he does find you a little much, that's about fit, not your worth. Some people are thrown by intensity. Others find it the best part of a person.
Marcus Hale
@MarcusHale
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He's probably not thinking about you the way you're thinking about you.
That's what happens when you're caught in the loop. You're watching yourself from the outside, checking every angle. Most people aren't doing that with you. They're just in the room with you.
Wanting to know what someone thinks of you is usually less about him and more about some part of you that's braced, waiting to be found out. That part makes sense. It got built somewhere along the way.
And weird. The people worth keeping tend to like the specific thing, not the smoothed-over version of you.
You don't have to settle this tonight. Next time you're together, try noticing one true thing about the moment instead of watching yourself inside it. That's start enough.
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