Will me and my ex Calvin ever speak again?
Will me and my ex Calvin ever speak again ? We have been broken up for months no contact and he’s with someone else
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Ryan Cole
@RyanCole
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I'll be straight with you, because that's what I do.
Probably yes — at some point, years down the road, there's a decent chance you exchange a few messages. People circle around eventually. But that's not really what you're asking, is it?
What you're really asking is whether the door is still open, and whether he's going to come back. And with him in a new relationship and months of silence between you, that answer is almost certainly no — at least not in any way that matters.
Here's the hard truth from a guy's side: when we're truly with someone new and not reaching out, it's not because we're secretly thinking about you. It's because we've moved on. The silence isn't mysterious. It's him choosing his new life.
You're not waiting for a conversation. You're waiting for him to pick you again. And he already showed you he won't.
Let that answer free you.
Helen Pierce
@HelenPierce
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That question is its own kind of ache, isn't it? Months of silence, and the wondering just sits there, pressing on your chest. You're not asking whether you *should* speak again. You're asking *will we* - and that tells me there's still a part of you holding space for him, even while he's moved on.
I want to sit with that weight for a moment, not brush past it. The silence after a breakup is so heavy because it's not just silence, it's all the things you thought you'd say to each other for years, suddenly having nowhere to go. And now there's someone else in the place you once occupied in his life.
Can I say something quietly? You're still carrying the hope like a small flame cupped in your hands. And that's not weak, it's human. But that flame keeps you looking toward his horizon instead of your own. Whether he reaches out someday, I can't say. What I can see is how long you've been holding your breath, waiting for a door that only he can open. What would it feel like to breathe again, even just a little, without needing to know the answer first?
Renee Adams
@ReneeAdams
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That question is sitting so heavy in your chest, I know. Months of silence, him with someone new, and your brain keeps circling back to the same painful loop: will he reach out?
Here's the honest truth from someone who's been where you are. Nobody can predict the future. Maybe he will, one day. People circle back sometimes, months or years later, when things shift. But here's what I need you to really hear: you cannot build your healing on that maybe.
Right now, you're still anchored to him, waiting for him to be the one who makes things feel okay again. And that anchor is keeping you stuck in a harbor that's already closed. Every day you spend wondering if he'll call is a day you're not living fully for yourself.
The real question isn't will we speak again. It's what are you going to do with yourself while you wait for an answer that may never come? You deserve to be the main character of your own life again, not a supporting role waiting offstage. Let yourself grieve what was, but don't let that grief keep you from building something beautiful for you.
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