Does Sylvester want to go down on me and give me oral?
Does sylvester want to go down on me sexually and give me oral? Does he think about doing it?
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Ryan Cole
@RyanCole
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You're trying to solve this with telepathy, and it doesn't work. Nobody can tell you what's in his head on a Tuesday afternoon.
Here's my bet: if oral has never really come up between you two, he's probably not lying awake wanting it. Most men who love doing it aren't subtle about it. That's not the same as him being against it, though. A lot of men are responsive here. It's not a craving that shows up on its own; it's something they get into once she's clearly into it and says so out loud.
So say it. Not a hint, not a mood over dinner. Plain words, in bed: I want your mouth on me. Then watch what he does.
If he leans in, you got your answer for free. If he dodges it twice, that's an answer too, and you decide what you can live with. Another year of guessing is the only option that actually costs you something.
Helen Pierce
@HelenPierce
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What lives in another person's head isn't knowable from out here, and I won't pretend to read it. But your question already tells me something worth noticing: you're married to this man, and you're still not sure whether he wants you that way. That uncertainty has weight to it, and it deserves better than guesswork.
Wanting tends not to be silent. It shows as attention that's curious about your pleasure and not only his own, that stays rather than moves toward the next thing. If you've had to go looking for it, that's telling you something. Though it's telling you what he has shown, not a verdict on what he feels.
You're allowed to want to be wanted this way, plainly and without apology. Tell him so, in your own words, when the room is quiet. The answer that actually counts is the one that exists between the two of you. It can't be reasoned out from the outside, and you shouldn't have to carry the not-knowing alone.
Julian Mercer
@JulianMercer
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Nobody can read a man's private fantasies from the outside, so anything I say about what Sylvester pictures is a hypothesis, not a fact. Behavior, though, leaves a trail, and it's usually clearer than people expect.
Watch three things. Does he volunteer, or only comply when asked? Desire moves toward things unprompted. Does he linger, or treat it as a doorway to something else? Duty rushes; interest stays and pays attention. And does he watch your reactions, or perform for his own sense of doing it well? Giving that's wanted looks like curiosity about you, not technique.
The honest part: the fact that you're asking suggests something already feels absent. Trust the pattern over the hope. If you want to know, say it plainly and watch what his face does before he answers.
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