Is my girlfriend seeing or sleeping with anyone because I don’t want to lose her?

I hear how much this waiting is eating at you. That ache of not knowing, checking your phone, wondering if he's looking at your pictures the way you're looking at his — it's exhausting and it hurts. I'm not going to pretend I know what he's thinking or when he'll reach out, because the truth is, I can't tell you that. What I can tell you is that you're spending your precious energy on someone who isn't spending theirs on you right now. And that matters. You matter. The real question isn't when he'll come back — it's how long you're willing to keep living in this waiting room of your own life. Look at your pictures. Look at yourself in those photos. That person deserves someone who shows up, not someone you have to wonder about. I'm not saying it's easy, but honey, don't shrink your world down to waiting for him. Expand it. Fill it with things that don't leave you guessing.

I hear how much this waiting is eating at you. That ache of not knowing, checking your phone, wondering if he's looking at your pictures the way you're looking at his — it's exhausting and it hurts. I'm not going to pretend I know what he's thinking or when he'll reach out, because the truth is, I can't tell you that. What I can tell you is that you're spending your precious energy on someone who isn't spending theirs on you right now. And that matters. You matter. The real question isn't when he'll come back — it's how long you're willing to keep living in this waiting room of your own life. Look at your pictures. Look at yourself in those photos. That person deserves someone who shows up, not someone you have to wonder about. I'm not saying it's easy, but honey, don't shrink your world down to waiting for him. Expand it. Fill it with things that don't leave you guessing.

You handled the GM situation exactly right. Keeping a confidence isn't betrayal of the group; it's basic integrity. Your coworkers' anger came from being caught off-guard, not from you doing something wrong. You were right: if you'd passed along every quitting threat that never materialized, you'd have cried wolf and lost all credibility. You chose discretion over gossip, and that's rare. What matters now is the pattern. Trust is being withheld from you in return. You're being kept in the dark about your own promotion, denied computer access, dragged along. That's not a culture that respects you back. You kept someone else's secret; they won't give you a straight answer about your own future. Andy stepping up more consistently, kissing back, showing up, keeping his word from the graveside conversation -- that's a relational shift you can observe and enjoy without overanalyzing. Let the pattern build before you assign it meaning. Actions repeated over time are what count, not isolated moments. On the work front: stop waiting for them to decide for you. Ask directly for a timeline on the promotion decision. If they deflect or stall, you have your answer without them having to say no. You don't have to quit, but you do have to stop being the one who keeps everyone else's secrets while nobody keeps yours.

You handled the GM situation exactly right. Keeping a confidence isn't betrayal of the group; it's basic integrity. Your coworkers' anger came from being caught off-guard, not from you doing something wrong. You were right: if you'd passed along every quitting threat that never materialized, you'd have cried wolf and lost all credibility. You chose discretion over gossip, and that's rare. What matters now is the pattern. Trust is being withheld from you in return. You're being kept in the dark about your own promotion, denied computer access, dragged along. That's not a culture that respects you back. You kept someone else's secret; they won't give you a straight answer about your own future. Andy stepping up more consistently, kissing back, showing up, keeping his word from the graveside conversation -- that's a relational shift you can observe and enjoy without overanalyzing. Let the pattern build before you assign it meaning. Actions repeated over time are what count, not isolated moments. On the work front: stop waiting for them to decide for you. Ask directly for a timeline on the promotion decision. If they deflect or stall, you have your answer without them having to say no. You don't have to quit, but you do have to stop being the one who keeps everyone else's secrets while nobody keeps yours.

You dated this guy for a year. You know how he operates. And here's what you described: he called you (rare), messaged twice (rare), said "I love you," gave an unprompted compliment, got protective when another man looked at you, held your hand, and laughed with you like the old days. Sounds like hope, right? I get why you'd think that. But here's the part you don't want to hear. None of this tells you he wants to get back together. It tells you he enjoyed the night. It tells you he felt comfortable. It tells you he might even miss you a little. That's not the same as him wanting to rebuild a relationship. The real question isn't "is he still in there?" You already know he is. The real question is whether he's willing to do the work to stay out. A year of dating and he gave you one compliment you didn't fish for. That's not a communication problem. That's him showing you who he is. One good night where he laughed and held your hand doesn't erase the year of pulling away. You're holding onto the version of him that came out for a few hours. The other version is the one you broke up with. Enjoy that memory. But don't build a future on a guy who only shows up when it's easy.

You dated this guy for a year. You know how he operates. And here's what you described: he called you (rare), messaged twice (rare), said "I love you," gave an unprompted compliment, got protective when another man looked at you, held your hand, and laughed with you like the old days. Sounds like hope, right? I get why you'd think that. But here's the part you don't want to hear. None of this tells you he wants to get back together. It tells you he enjoyed the night. It tells you he felt comfortable. It tells you he might even miss you a little. That's not the same as him wanting to rebuild a relationship. The real question isn't "is he still in there?" You already know he is. The real question is whether he's willing to do the work to stay out. A year of dating and he gave you one compliment you didn't fish for. That's not a communication problem. That's him showing you who he is. One good night where he laughed and held your hand doesn't erase the year of pulling away. You're holding onto the version of him that came out for a few hours. The other version is the one you broke up with. Enjoy that memory. But don't build a future on a guy who only shows up when it's easy.