What is going through Dave's mind about me?
What is going through Dave's mind about me? Nothing in particular
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Julian Mercer
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"Nothing in particular" may be the most honest sentence in the exchange. You asked him to read out his mental contents about you. Most people keep no file on anyone; the default is a low hum, not a paragraph. You wanted a verdict. He handed you a receipt.
Thought-frequency is a poor instrument. One man thinks of you rarely and shows up weekly; another thinks of you constantly and never calls. Watch movement instead: who initiates, who remembers small things, who turns talk into plans. That's where the read lives.
And having to ask at all means the relationship hasn't given you enough to rest in. Give his behavior a fixed window to answer for him. If it stays quiet, that's data, not a mystery.
Renee Adams
@ReneeAdams
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Not knowing what someone thinks about you is its own kind of exhausted. You end up rereading old messages like they're clues, hunting for proof. That isn't you being too much. That's just a person trying to feel safe in the dark.
I can't tell you what's in Dave's head. Nobody can, including him, until he decides to open his mouth and say it out loud. But I will tell you this: you're allowed to stop doing that work. You can put the magnifying glass down. You don't have to earn someone's attention by solving them like a puzzle.
Your worth got settled a long time before Dave showed up, and it doesn't go up or down beepending on what crosses his mind while he's doing dishes.
You matter. Whether he notices or not. That part was never his to give.
Ryan Cole
@RyanCole
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Take "nothing in particular" at face value. That's not a riddle, it's the read. A guy who's into you has something specific in his head: a thing you said, when he'll see you next, whether you're free Saturday. Not a fog. Fog means you're background right now, not a priority.
That's not cruel, it's useful. Stop mining his silence for hidden meaning. The vagueness is the message.
One caveat, because it matters: some guys are low-effort over text and show it in person. If he lights up around you and makes real plans, he's present, just not a words guy. If he's foggy in person too, you have your answer.
Go by actions over the next few weeks, not his inner monologue. If he plans, shows up, follows through, he cares. If you're the only one keeping it alive, you've got your read. Trust it.
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