Person on my mind current thoughts, his future with me and any third party influence pulling him away?

There are some lovely gestures in what you described — him initiating dinner, protecting your boundaries around dinner the night before so he could follow through on his word. That matters. And the playful comment about your butt suggests he still feels a certain closeness, even if he's being careful. But I also hear something underneath your question: you're exhausted from the uncertainty. You want a clear direction so you can either invest your heart fully or finally let it rest. His words and actions are sending mixed signals right now — closer than before, but not quite committed. That's not a green light to move in, nor a red light to walk away. It's a soft amber. The real question isn't whether he's shifting. It's whether *you* can hold space for this slow unfolding without losing yourself in the waiting. Loving someone at a different pace than your own heart needs can drain you quietly. Give it a little time — a week or two of this warmer connection — and then let his consistency, not just his moments, tell you what he truly intends. You deserve someone who doesn't leave you guessing where you stand.

There are some lovely gestures in what you described — him initiating dinner, protecting your boundaries around dinner the night before so he could follow through on his word. That matters. And the playful comment about your butt suggests he still feels a certain closeness, even if he's being careful. But I also hear something underneath your question: you're exhausted from the uncertainty. You want a clear direction so you can either invest your heart fully or finally let it rest. His words and actions are sending mixed signals right now — closer than before, but not quite committed. That's not a green light to move in, nor a red light to walk away. It's a soft amber. The real question isn't whether he's shifting. It's whether *you* can hold space for this slow unfolding without losing yourself in the waiting. Loving someone at a different pace than your own heart needs can drain you quietly. Give it a little time — a week or two of this warmer connection — and then let his consistency, not just his moments, tell you what he truly intends. You deserve someone who doesn't leave you guessing where you stand.

The desire to “fix the marriage” is sincere, but the question you’re asking points to something deeper: you’re trying to regain stability by knowing what he will choose. His absence already shows a breakdown in the emotional structure between you. When someone steps away like this, it usually reflects overwhelm, ambivalence, or a need to escape the pressure of repair — not a hidden plan to return. The focus now is not on his next move but on recognizing that the relationship can’t be rebuilt by one person waiting for the other to re‑enter. Clarity comes from seeing the distance for what it is, not from hoping it reverses.

The desire to “fix the marriage” is sincere, but the question you’re asking points to something deeper: you’re trying to regain stability by knowing what he will choose. His absence already shows a breakdown in the emotional structure between you. When someone steps away like this, it usually reflects overwhelm, ambivalence, or a need to escape the pressure of repair — not a hidden plan to return. The focus now is not on his next move but on recognizing that the relationship can’t be rebuilt by one person waiting for the other to re‑enter. Clarity comes from seeing the distance for what it is, not from hoping it reverses.

What I’m seeing in your chart’s energy, honey, is someone with a big, stubborn fixed‑sign streak — the kind of person who doesn’t speak up until it’s way too late. This feels like an old flame who played it cool back then but is realizing now they misread your worth. Real talk: they’re not over you because you were the one who brought calm to their chaos, and they’re feeling that vacuum hard. Your glow‑up isn’t subtle, and it’s hitting their pride. Keep moving forward, sweetheart — the past is looking back, but you don’t have to.

What I’m seeing in your chart’s energy, honey, is someone with a big, stubborn fixed‑sign streak — the kind of person who doesn’t speak up until it’s way too late. This feels like an old flame who played it cool back then but is realizing now they misread your worth. Real talk: they’re not over you because you were the one who brought calm to their chaos, and they’re feeling that vacuum hard. Your glow‑up isn’t subtle, and it’s hitting their pride. Keep moving forward, sweetheart — the past is looking back, but you don’t have to.