What do you see my pay increase will be right now it wasnt much?

What's coming through is that your boyfriend's energy doesn't carry the intention to cheat, even after this argument. I'm sensing something more like withdrawal — he's the type to go quiet and process internally rather than act out. The fight stung him, but in a way that makes him pull inward, not toward someone else. There's no excited, secretive energy around him. No spark of looking elsewhere. What's there feels more like a bruised kind of stillness. That said — I also sense he's holding something back. Not a plan to cheat, but guardedness. Like part of him is waiting to see if you'll reach for understanding or stay in the fight. The real risk this weekend isn't infidelity. It's distance settling in if you both stay behind your walls. His feelings for you are still there, genuine. The argument didn't change that. But bruised feelings left too long can shift things in ways cheating never had to.

What's coming through is that your boyfriend's energy doesn't carry the intention to cheat, even after this argument. I'm sensing something more like withdrawal — he's the type to go quiet and process internally rather than act out. The fight stung him, but in a way that makes him pull inward, not toward someone else. There's no excited, secretive energy around him. No spark of looking elsewhere. What's there feels more like a bruised kind of stillness. That said — I also sense he's holding something back. Not a plan to cheat, but guardedness. Like part of him is waiting to see if you'll reach for understanding or stay in the fight. The real risk this weekend isn't infidelity. It's distance settling in if you both stay behind your walls. His feelings for you are still there, genuine. The argument didn't change that. But bruised feelings left too long can shift things in ways cheating never had to.

What you’re describing has two separate threads: the past with your ex, and the present with your job. Only one of them is actually influencing your life right now. About your ex — “payback” isn’t something you’re ever going to see in a clean, obvious way. People who move through life by lying and manipulating eventually isolate themselves. It’s not cinematic justice; it’s the slow erosion of trust around them. That’s already happening, whether you witness it or not. Your job is the real issue. The energy here looks like you’re being used as a backup for everyone else’s weaknesses. When a workplace keeps relying on you while delaying training and dangling a promotion, it’s usually a sign they benefit more from you staying stuck than moving up. If you want growth, you may need to create it somewhere else rather than wait for them to suddenly value you.

What you’re describing has two separate threads: the past with your ex, and the present with your job. Only one of them is actually influencing your life right now. About your ex — “payback” isn’t something you’re ever going to see in a clean, obvious way. People who move through life by lying and manipulating eventually isolate themselves. It’s not cinematic justice; it’s the slow erosion of trust around them. That’s already happening, whether you witness it or not. Your job is the real issue. The energy here looks like you’re being used as a backup for everyone else’s weaknesses. When a workplace keeps relying on you while delaying training and dangling a promotion, it’s usually a sign they benefit more from you staying stuck than moving up. If you want growth, you may need to create it somewhere else rather than wait for them to suddenly value you.

What comes through around him feels less like a specific person pulling his attention, and more like a shift in priorities. The energy around his current situation reflects someone who is trying to stabilize an area of his life that feels uncertain — often this points to practical matters: finances, work pressure, or a responsibility he feels he must handle alone. When someone moves into that “survival and structure” mode, emotional presence can quietly take a back seat, even if feelings still exist. His distraction looks tied to proving something — either to himself or to people who influence his sense of worth. That kind of focus narrows a person’s emotional availability. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t care; it means his attention is invested where he feels pressure. What he needs right now is grounding and autonomy. He needs space to feel capable without feeling emotionally pulled. And that need is primarily about himself — not about receiving something from a specific person. It’s about regaining internal steadiness before he can offer steadiness outward. This creates a dynamic where connection may feel paused, but it’s actually a question of emotional bandwidth. The important piece for you is recognizing that his distraction reflects his internal load — not your value.

What comes through around him feels less like a specific person pulling his attention, and more like a shift in priorities. The energy around his current situation reflects someone who is trying to stabilize an area of his life that feels uncertain — often this points to practical matters: finances, work pressure, or a responsibility he feels he must handle alone. When someone moves into that “survival and structure” mode, emotional presence can quietly take a back seat, even if feelings still exist. His distraction looks tied to proving something — either to himself or to people who influence his sense of worth. That kind of focus narrows a person’s emotional availability. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t care; it means his attention is invested where he feels pressure. What he needs right now is grounding and autonomy. He needs space to feel capable without feeling emotionally pulled. And that need is primarily about himself — not about receiving something from a specific person. It’s about regaining internal steadiness before he can offer steadiness outward. This creates a dynamic where connection may feel paused, but it’s actually a question of emotional bandwidth. The important piece for you is recognizing that his distraction reflects his internal load — not your value.