That "no matter how mad I make her, she'll still text me" — I hear you holding onto that like a lifeline, and I get why. When everything feels shaky, you look for the one thing that's been true before. But I want to gently name something: this cycle — blow up, block, come back, repeat — isn't stability. It's a rollercoaster. And the question isn't really whether she'll come back this time. It's whether *you* want to keep living in a space where "go to hell" and "goodbye forever" are regular parts of your vocabulary together. Your dad getting involved likely made her feel cornered and exposed, especially if her parents don't know you two are talking. Her reaction was fierce, but it probably came from panic more than lack of love. Here's the hard part: right now, the most caring thing you can do — for yourself *and* for her — is stop reaching out. Not as a tactic to get her back. Because you deserve a connection that doesn't require chasing someone who tells you to get lost. Let the silence do its work. If she reaches out, you can decide then, calmly, what kind of conversation you're willing to have. You don't have to answer right away — or at all. Take a breath. You're not a bad person for wanting her. But you're also allowed to want something softer than this.
That "no matter how mad I make her, she'll still text me" — I hear you holding onto that like a lifeline, and I get why. When everything feels shaky, you look for the one thing that's been true before. But I want to gently name something: this cycle — blow up, block, come back, repeat — isn't stability. It's a rollercoaster. And the question isn't really whether she'll come back this time. It's whether *you* want to keep living in a space where "go to hell" and "goodbye forever" are regular parts of your vocabulary together. Your dad getting involved likely made her feel cornered and exposed, especially if her parents don't know you two are talking. Her reaction was fierce, but it probably came from panic more than lack of love. Here's the hard part: right now, the most caring thing you can do — for yourself *and* for her — is stop reaching out. Not as a tactic to get her back. Because you deserve a connection that doesn't require chasing someone who tells you to get lost. Let the silence do its work. If she reaches out, you can decide then, calmly, what kind of conversation you're willing to have. You don't have to answer right away — or at all. Take a breath. You're not a bad person for wanting her. But you're also allowed to want something softer than this.
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