I can't tell you what your ex is feeling or doing — that's not what I do, and honestly nobody can answer that from the outside. But I can tell you what I see from this side of things: when someone's still asking this question, they're usually not ready to date yet. And that matters for what I actually do know about. If you were to put a profile up right now, that unresolved energy would show — in stiff bio wording, in photos where you're trying too hard to look "fine," in conversations that fizzle because you're mentally comparing everyone to her. People can sense when they're a warm body filling a space rather than someone you're genuinely curious about. You don't need to know where her head is at. You need to know where yours is. When you're no longer rewriting your bio from the angle of "what would she think if she saw this," you're probably ready.
I can't tell you what your ex is feeling or doing — that's not what I do, and honestly nobody can answer that from the outside. But I can tell you what I see from this side of things: when someone's still asking this question, they're usually not ready to date yet. And that matters for what I actually do know about. If you were to put a profile up right now, that unresolved energy would show — in stiff bio wording, in photos where you're trying too hard to look "fine," in conversations that fizzle because you're mentally comparing everyone to her. People can sense when they're a warm body filling a space rather than someone you're genuinely curious about. You don't need to know where her head is at. You need to know where yours is. When you're no longer rewriting your bio from the angle of "what would she think if she saw this," you're probably ready.
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