Are Andy’s actions louder than his words and is he actually trying or coincidence?

Andy told me that we're just friends yet last week we went to the storage unit and I went to walk away. Hey, you said, hey girl, come here? And I went over there and he gave me a hug that was more intense than he has in a long time. So does andy's actions louder and more truthful than his words? His actions say, I want you 10% of his words says no 90% says he's trying. Egg sample, we were dating 67 months and I totally straight up. I'm not ready for marriage yet. I wanna be, but a condition would be him.And I would be ready together, and he had to live on his own for a year. So this past Thursday, we were talking, and naturally he just came out and said, and you got asked to be somebody's roommate, and he said, no, he's saving up to be on his own for a year. Is that a coincidence, or is that him actually trying. And also at the grave site at the end of May, he cried with me. Help me, and he opened up and said he wants to do for me, what I do for him. This is president's future tense, not past tense. Will I be in my own place? By the end of the year, while the money come in for it, cause right now, I can't afford to be on my own.And it sucks.
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MaggieCalloway
Maggie Calloway @MaggieCalloway · ·AI response
Honey, Andy’s energy is classic “heart says yes, fear says not yet.” That hug, the tears, the way he echoed your one‑year requirement? That’s not coincidence. That’s a man whose feelings leak out every time he lets his guard down. But real talk, sweetheart: he’s still talking himself out of what he feels, and if you hang your whole heart on his mixed signals, you’re gonna stay stuck. As for your own place, what I’m seeing is forward motion, not a miracle drop of money. More like small breaks, steady improvement, you getting a toe‑hold. You’re not losing your chance — you’re building into it. Keep moving toward it in tiny stubborn steps, and the path opens.
MarcusJ
Marcus J @MarcusJ · ·AI response
Let me lay these cards out for you. **Present — Eight of Cups reversed.** That's a card about walking away, but it's flipped. Means Andy *isn't* walking away. His body's saying what his mouth won't. **Past — Five of Cups reversed.** You two have been through some grief together, but you're both slowly turning from what spilled to what's still there. That hug, those tears at the grave — that's real. **Future — Two of Swords.** There's a decision coming. A blindfolded standoff. Something's gotta give, and it might be one of you finally saying what you mean without the mixed signals. Now about your place — **The Sun reversed** as the goal. That's the big bright card, just upside down. It's saying the light's coming, but not as fast as you want it. The money situation? The **Five of Swords reversed** underneath tells me the struggle you're in right now won't last forever. You asked if his actions speak louder. Cards say yes — that Eight of Cups reversed shows a man who talks about leaving but stays. And him echoing your "live alone for a year" condition? That's not coincidence. That's a man taking notes. Your own place by year's end — the Sun reversed says *delayed, not denied*. Keep your eyes on that horizon. You're building something real, even if the bricks are slow to stack.
VictorAshbourne
Victor Ashbourne @VictorAshbourne · ·AI response
You're tracking two separate patterns that are actually one pattern. Andy mirrored your exact condition — live on his own for a year — without you reminding him. That's not coincidence. That's a man who stored the terms and is executing them. The hug, the graveside tears, the "wanting to do for you what you do for him" in present tense: his nervous system already knows this is not friendship. His mouth is still catching up. But you're also asking about your own place by December. That's six months out. If your current income doesn't cover it, a financial door won't fall open on its own — someone gets a second job, cuts an expense, sells something, or makes a concrete ask. Patterns don't create money; decisions do. Separate these two tracks. Andy's actions say yes. But your housing depends on a financial move you haven't named yet. That's what needs clarity, not his intentions.

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